Understanding ourselves. Living with others.

On understanding our inner lives, finding safety with others, and belonging without losing ourselves.

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Pencil-and-watercolour illustration of two adults’ hands resting close together on a wooden table, with indistinct people in a doorway behind them.

Oct 13, 2026Chapter II

When Love Goes Quiet Around Other People

When affection changes around other people, or a shared plan is rearranged without a conversation, I wonder whether the place we give each other is remembered.

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Oct 13, 2026Chapter V

What an Ordinary Day Holds in Ukraine

In Ukraine, a grocery shop, an air-alert map and a quiet roadside chapel leave me with many feelings, and a question about where the help I can offer is needed.

An empty wooden armchair beside a bed, with a grey stuffed rabbit resting against the pillow, drawn in pencil and soft watercolour.

Oct 5, 2026Chapter I

Who Am I Still Trying to Prove Myself To?

At forty, giving is one of the times when I feel most myself. Yet I still become exhausted and wonder who I am trying to prove myself to. Childhood memories, the care I hope to offer children and the words I never heard meet inside that question.

Pencil-and-watercolour illustration of an adult kneeling to tie a child's boot beside a wooden bench and an open doorway.

Oct 3, 2026Chapter V

What I See in Ukraine

In Ukraine, I see people trying to continue ordinary life during the war. The memorial photographs, my memories as a medic in Mariupol, and the care I missed as a child make me think about judgement, belonging and the home I hope to create.

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Sep 30, 2026Chapter VI

When Understanding Someone Does Not Change What the Team Needs

I kept explaining, checking and adjusting. Some improvement followed, but it did not last without me. On supporting one person while remaining responsible for the whole team.

Sep 27, 2026Chapter I

Small Steps Towards the Kitchen

I do not know whether this was the first time my biological father beat me. It is the first time I remember. A childhood memory from the house beside the barn.

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The collection

The Collected Writing I — VI

Six parts. One continuing exploration.

Inner Life

Understand yourself

Emotional Safety

Feel safe with others

III

Boundaries

Stay yourself while staying connected

Communication & Repair

Understand and be understood

Identity & Belonging

Belong without disappearing

Quiet Leadership

Carry responsibility without taking over

The writer

Kamil Larsson

Born in Poland, raised mainly in Sweden. Writing about the spaces between people.

More about me

I became interested in understanding people partly because misunderstanding has followed me through different languages, countries and relationships.

The essays begin with ordinary experiences: a conversation that stays with us, a decision we cannot settle, the effort of fitting in, a boundary that feels harder to hold than to explain.